I'm human, Kathy. I have emotions. And when someone tries very hard to stir the pot, I can get ticked off.
My family's history is simply not your business. I bring up orphanges to respond to your fantasy of American orphanages, which is strange since you say people should take care of their own kids.
I will also not share the "results" of our time spent with our foster and respite kids. I will reassure you, though, that their behavior, school performance, home behavior, everything, is monitored continually. A fair amount of my time is spent being in contact with people in every aspect of their lives to see how these kids are doing. Because, shocking as this is for you, not only do I NOT do this for money, I don't do this to blindly feel good without even looking at if it's helping. This is my life we're talking about. I hate to waste it. So I pay attention to if it's working.
I wonder if you have better things to do in life than piss off total strangers online. Like perhaps becoming a foster parent? Or starting an orphanage?
And, actually, how much a foster family makes IS kind of the point. I would say that earning $1/hour, for example, IS charity. It's enough to cover gas, food, clothing. But you go ahead and cling to the idea that people are in this for the big bucks if it helps you be able to attack it.