Simply put; I prefer 'engaging' or inviting others in conversation or debate and clearly loath those who (Know it all) ridicule or minimise another as a means to get their own point across (a method that's rarely successfull).
I've been frequently accused of focusing "too much' attention on the BIG picture over the years (fortunately for me, a talent I was well paid for).
I admit to spending (waisting?) a lot of time waiting for others to just catch up, but that's OK. I'm not trying to convince 'anyone' of "anything.' Not my style or purpose. One can 'choose' to be rigid or not in ones thoughts.
Just attempting to have some honest dialogue is all. Sure don't mean to 'add' to anyones confusion (vague? Really?) but really, its not my job to educate anyone anymore, only myself these days.
But some are too smart already, can't teach them anything anyway, right? Especially if it might reverse or challenge an acquired belief or principle. Unfortunately, that's just one reason many people outside (and inside) the US think we are an arrogant culture (we are), that and our persistant demand that they all become "more like us" when on their soil.
I know very few things with the kind certainty some are able to express around here, and in my very 'limited' experience (over twenty years traveling the world conducting interviews, investigations and submitting the reports/studies to our government) I've found that those who are 'certain' to be some of the most dangerous, least tolerant and most unstable among us. This was/is the case where ever I've conducted this sort of research/investigation, here in the States or on the other side of the World. Despite the rhetoric, people really are just people.
It is only too apparent that many 'don't bother to read' the posts of others around here (perhaps that adds to some confusion?), especially if the statements challenge their thinking. Just 'one' example on this thread (just one?) assumes I've never talked to any 'bad guys' (or girls) during my work in Muslim Countries, which is just someones 'preconceived' notion, used solely to strengthen their own weak argument and not based on any reality. So it goes.
"Better dead than Red" Another American phrase mostly misunderstood by Americans, much like "Arab Spring"
"It is the wise who can entertain a thought without having to accept it." -Aristotle