Totally understand how you need to kill the work switch when you leave, taking any of it home is pulling over-time you aren't getting paid for. I must be honest, I was disappointed when you couldn't make it to Bud3, I remember the reason and family always comes first, but I thought we'd of had a great time chatting across a table.
As Admin, I've seen a lot of "types" come and go here. The embedded troll type, someone from somewhere else trying to look like a good guy and turn into a beast over-night is most apparent, honestly though I don't think he was one of those - I just believe some people are unstable and have a short trigger to match, that is a terrible combination in a forum.
I don't feel too bad for these people, because usually they show their true colors quite fast, rarely do they make it a hundred posts and in most cases, the barely see 40.
The worse and saddest to see leave is the long term members that all of a sudden lose it. It is a tough move to make because chances are they have friends here, supporters, people who can't see clearly the mess the long-timer is digging. It makes it difficult for mods to handle because it's very difficult to even imagine some going from a few thousand posts to an evil swamp slug over night, but it happens and honestly - unless the violations are extremely egregious, few people are going to understand how we justify slamming on the brakes as hard as we often need to do.
This group of mods we have are amazing in that EACH has full power to do as they see fit and NO ONE will argue their decision. At the same time, if time allows, we all ask each other for input in case our own thinking is compromised because of anything that could cloud our judgment. It is a system that has worked for years and it is also something that members have generally accepted as decisions made with thought and care and not irrationally or hastily. That acceptance by the members is a trust that mods take with great pride and we do our best to always do the right thing.
I'm just glad to state that the need for us to meet concerning such matters are rare, and oddly fall around the "Cabin Fever" season we mention so often - the lax time of year when there is nothing in the bee-yard to do and some members have little else to keep their minds busy, so tensions build and the words just flow out the ends of their fingers into the keyboard like lightning striking trees.
I know you have heard a lot of this before, but other readers haven't and it couldn't hurt to repeat that anything that negatively effect members are a concern of ours. We aren't like an on-call fire department, lying in bed ready to jump into our boots, we have real lives but we've also dedicated a great deal of time to make this forum the best it can be for the members.
Sure, life could be easy and we just toss out all the rules out the window, but that isn't our goal, nor will it ever. Making a safe place for anyone seeking a friendly place to come in to, from out in the cold of the Internet is our goal. I'm happy to say I know of several members who have NEVER posted outside of the Coffee House, their interest in beekeeping comes second to their socializing found here. That is why we have so many topics other than beekeeping - giving members a place to share all their ideas without having to belong to a dozen different forums is a great asset to the members, one I use frequently myself.
Enough though, I'll end with the final number of new Facebook members to Beemaster's International Forum with a whopping number of 72 new members in one day - wow! A simple request about Facebook lead to a humorous reply from Scrapirion, all and all - a wonderful day!