Irwin, oh dear, oh dear. Watching this kind of awful behaviour is one of the worst things that a parent can have happen to them. Been there, done that, with my oldest gal. She was abused terribly, mentally, by her second husband, he is gone now, and I thank my lucky stars, she has found a most wonderful soulmate now, that I love to pieces.
You have every right to protect your Grandchildren and your Daughter, I take my hat off to you!!! Our protection of our Children never stops, not even after they have all but grown up, sometimes making some very poor decisions. Sometimes they have no clue what their partner will dish out to them, when they are in the first throws of love and lust. Sometimes it takes many a year for that awful side of some people to shine through, but it eventually does, no one can hide from themselves forever.
I hope and hope very deeply, that your Daughter will not have this man return to her life. She deserves something better, as do your dearest Grandchildren. Children should not be hurt, he obviously was hurting these little people -- and that is not right. Now...I do believe that now and then children need a smack on their chubby little butts, I really don't care what anyone says about that, but it is only a loving tap to maybe set them back in line, nothing that would hurt them, nor the beautiful little souls that are living within.
Take that baseball bat to that dude again, if he needs it....you have my condoning of this, hee, hee. I think sometimes that the Parent needs to step in, I am serious....I will be thinking of you and your family, your beautiful Daughter and Grandchildren, whom deserve so much more in this life, life is too short for such sorrow.
Here, Irwin, you can vent, you can tell your innermost feelings, we are all listening, vent until the cows come home. This will make you feel better, you need to speak and tell these things, that is how we heal. Have a most wonderful day today, tomorrow and the many days that for surely will come, take care of your Daughter and your Grandchildren, you are their guiding light, they need you, you need them. Oh dear, I feel those tears welling up in my eyes, as I know I would do the same for my own Children and those lovely young men, that are my Grandsons, they deserve to be treated liked the Queens and Kings that they are. Cindi