Stain unlike many paints soaks into the wood fibers so they tend to fade over time rather than peel as paint. When they have faded to a degree your no longer happy with them just a very light cleaning with mild soap and water and your ready for another coat.
I buy mine in the gallon can at Lowe's, It can be mixed to a color from one of their charts then darkened to a shade more excepiable to you. I think the stand out less statement you made meens camofluged to an extent? Ask the person mixing the stain if they can do a match from a picture of a color. Once you get the color you like get the mix ration sheet and store it for future mixing ratios of new cans of stain.
By the way I am not trying to make my own hives less noticable so I buy the cheap miss mixed oops stuff. Just bought 3 gallons of Olyimpic at $5.00 from Lowe's and got $3.00 back per gallon rebate. Not a bad price for $24.00 exterior stain.